The Only Place You are a Burden… Is in Your Own Heart.

WP_20150209_016 (640x359)The Owner and I were watching a home renovation TV show this evening, about a veteran who had been invalided out of his military for injuries recieved after serving for 10+ years. His injuries are progressively debilitating and he was really struggling with moving his life forward, believing that for him his future was on pause for the rest of his life. In his own words “I don’t want to be a burden, I don’t want my condition to prevent my family from doing things, that they would be able to do if I was able-bodied.” He is married to a wonderful woman with three fabulous children, but struggling to accept the physical limitations and identify a future for his family given his medical condition. Sound familiar?

I think everyone on the TV show cried when the reveal was done, The Owner cried and I would have too (if I could!!) The effect of seeing this man who had nearly given up, being given his hope back was very powerful and emotional for him and his family. During the show his family were interviewed about the effect of making his home more accessible to him would be. The recurring theme of their answers were that their father felt he was a burden, but that they loved him regardless of his injuries and the day-to-day difficulties of living with his condition. Sound familiar?

He is a proud man, and reluctant to ask for help, but the effect the renovations to his home had on his life was profound. The father was stunned by the generosity extended to his family, and that is the key… He  realised that the family included everyone living under the roof, most importantly him. That denying his wife and children of his participation was making the situation worse not better. That he could no longer deny them the love, care and devotion that they unconditionally give him everyday and that they love him just the way he his. Sound familiar?

The story resonated with The Owner and I. You could replace his injuries with The Owners Parkinson’s disease and they would fit like a glove. Just let them love you…

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Setting Your Own Pace

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Bow Wow!! It has been a while, and a lot has happened since my last post, we have moved house same area, but much closer to the village, which means The Owner can walk down to “His Local” whatever that is, have a couple of “Pints” whatever they are and be home within an hour of leaving the house. This therapy seems to be working, as he is only gone for an hour and arrives home in much better form than he left and most importantly he walks. I would like to go too, but The Owner says no dogs allowed only blind dogs… Anyone got a spare high visibility harness?

So the house move went fine, and we are all settled in, including The Cat. No real surprises until moving in day, The Owner was complaining of a sore back, little did we know… He went to the doctor and the issue has been diagnosed as a prolapsed disc, that is pinching a nerve going down his left leg, looks and sounds very, very painful. He has been referred for surgery but in the mean-time lying on the floor is the best treatment… this is where I come in. I as you are all aware am a world champion at lying around on the floor, I have won the endurance competitions in my breed for the last 3 years. You can observe my technique in the picture above.

What it has meant is The Owner has not been able to sit, or drive for the last 4 weeks, so while he is flat on the floor the Mom has had to take up all the slack, as well as unpack in a new house and look after the children. Tough going in anyone’s book. There has been some upside, his posture has improved dramatically, he is walking a lot more, he looks like he has grown 2 inches and lost 25 pounds. This gave me pause for thought, how come it has taken something unrelated to Parkinson’s Disease, to get him exercising more frequently and walking everyday? I think the answer is confidence… He has realised (the hard way!!) that he has to look after his whole body and if that means walking slowly to start with so be it. Attitude and exercise works for mind as well as body.

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