We all have our little thing…

We all have our little thing!!

Hi it’s Jack, we had a really nice surprise last week when The Owner’s cousin stopped by with her youngest son, Baby Leo. The Owner and his cousin have known each other a long time and are very relaxed in each other’s company. Me, I am a dog, so I take my cue’s from The Owner, if he is chilled, then so am I. Baby Leo is 9 months old, so can’t make that decision himself, instead he takes his cue’s from his mother. She knows me well, so is as you can see, cool with Baby Leo chilling with me on the floor. They don’t call me the “Baby Whisperer” for nothing, well actually they don’t call me that at all… but some day though!!

The essence of my relationship with her baby is one of a mutual trust and an absence of fear. She knows me well and trusts me with her child and he is not afraid of me. Equally I know and trust her, and I am not afraid of her baby. Simple… isn’t it? So how come with some other relationships The Owner manages to make such a dogs dinner (I had to get that in!!) of it? So is it the absence of fear and or trust that is missed…or is it that he forgets that it has to be mutual… the latter me thinks!! If people are afraid to ask him questions then 25% of the equation is missing before they even get started. That is his job to work on and he knows it. When you are sick you can tend to get very self-centred and forget that those around you have their own lives to lead and that you have to respect and encourage them to do so. Sometimes he needs a kick to be reminded that the world does not revolve around a Parkinson’s Disease axis, with him that the centre of that sphere.

The other thing he needs to consider on occasion is that he is not the only one who is sick, just because there are no visible indications of sickness does’t mean every one else’s life is perfect, because it’s not. Some may be better had hiding it, others may not even be aware of it yet and for yet others there may be no visible indications, but… We all have our little thing!!

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But most of all you’re my best friend

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Hi it’s Jack…. I have been The Owner’s constant companion for the Christmas Season. He has been in very good humour and has really enjoyed catching up with some friends he had not seen in a long, long time, so all good. He was looking at some pictures taken long before he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease and boy did that bring a smile to his face. Different time, different place, but fun most definitely, they looked like they all had lots and lots of fun!!

Today however, I saw a shadow cross his face, just for a second, very quick but it scared me. A look of silent despair and anguish, that is usually covered with a grin and a change of the subject, but hidden. His irrational, yet very real fear of being seen as a burden, irrational because he knows that he is loved, real because it is real to him. Every now and then, it comes at him, … hard… but this time he cried, so I did what I do best, and I put my head in his lap looked up at him and loved him.

The trigger? A scene from a movie “Love and Other Drugs”, where Jake Gyllenhaal, speaks to the husband of a late stage Parkinson’s Disease sufferer. A 30 second insight into the life of those people who carry that unceasing load of caring for, of  loving and living with a person who has Parkinson’s Disease. This is his greatest fear, that of being a burden to family and friends. 99.99% of the time it’s not an issue, but every once in a while he is reminded. Being strong 99.99% of the time is good going, so I cut him a bit of slack on the 0.01% and told him to man up…he got the message.

One of the many things I have noticed since I have come to live with My Family, is the amount of time he spends on his own, be it resting and recuperating, or simply going to bed early because his energy levels are so low, it can be isolating. I am usually with him all the time, as well as My Family. That’s not enough, so why don’t you call just to chat, to recommend book that you have enjoyed, or music that you like. He can also be very grumpy, but I not so sure that’s a Parkinson’s thing.

PS When you are talking to him you might just let him know that I am sorry about the accident on the carpet, please don’t tell the cat, and he is… My best friend.

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