Ignorance is not Bliss… It hurts

The Owner is angry today, not with me or his family, not even with himself… He is angry for someone else, a friend of his, and although I have never met her I am angry for her too!!

The Owner was diagnosed 11 years ago, so he has gotten used to the awkwardness of telling people about his diagnosis.. “I have Parkinson’s Disease.” It took him a while (like 6-7 years!!) but he got there eventually, but only with the help of family, friends and colleagues. More often than not now, when he tells people it is done with humour and sensitivity (yes I did say sensitivity!!) He knows how to explain the basics of Parkinson’s Disease and how it applies to him. Upon hearing the diagnosis the response is invariably “But you are so young, and intelligent and handsome and you can put up shelves..” Well maybe not the put up shelves bit… But their initial reaction is based upon what they see, a younger person with Parkinson’s Disease, which is generally perceived to be associated with older people.

“It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you handle  it that counts….” You will have heard this before, well it goes both ways. It’s tough enough for the person who has Parkinson’s Disease to live with the disease, never mind a person who is recently diagnosed, add-on top of that early onset… you get the picture. Or maybe you don’t, so to be clear.. It’s shit. So if you ask the question “What’s wrong with you?” be sure you can handle the answer, because if you can’t you are not helping. If the person thinks you need to know they will tell you, when and how they think best, because in this circumstance they do know best.

Coming back to the anger, when a friend of yours, diagnosed with early onset Parkinson’s Disease less than a year ago says and I quote:

“I am sick and tired of people saying Oh so and so died from Parkinson’s, can’t you just keep that to yourself !!!!!!! Please”

That makes me as angry as the owner. Ignorance is not bliss…. It hurts.

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PS. If you want to hear The Owners response let me know and I will seek his permission (There are a lot of * in the ******* response, but you get the idea!!)

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Sometimes you just have to do..what you just have to do!!!

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Hi it’s Jack. People sometimes ask the Owner, what is Jack like? His response is usually “Jack is the most amazing Dog ever created in the Universe ever..!!!” Ok sorry I may be getting a bit carried away, what he actually says is “Jack does all the dog things you expect him to do and more…”

The Cat told me last week that we are moving house, my immediate thoughts… where am I going to go? They love where they live… so why are they moving? I pondered, I worried… pondered some more, and then I just asked The Cat. She smiled her enigmatic cat smile and said.. “Lots of reasons to stay, lots of reasons to go…. but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do…!!” Hmmm, great help..

Last night I figured out what she was saying. Sometimes you have to do things in life that you really don’t want to do. Things like move house, or reduce your working hours and the fear of facing and explaining those decisions can paralyze your decision making. So nothing happens, the circumstances may not get worse, but they certainly don’t get any better… Why the paralysis? Lots of different reasons, fear of failure, or fear of being seen to fail, not wanting to admit to yourself that your future may not be within your control. Whichever one it is you end up in the same place, not worse but not better.

Then sometimes you realise that you just have to do what you have to do… Face the fear of failure, ignore what you think others may think (generally you are wrong anyway!!) Most importantly face the reality of your circumstances and just do it… My family did, the house may be smaller, the garden may not be as nice…but it is ours and that’s what matters.

And I can see The Owner walking taller already.

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